Sabbath School Summary
Little Times of Trouble
Memory Text: Ephesians 4:26
SATURDAY: It’s very hard to avoid being angry in a fallen world. “Even the best of homes will face times of struggle, times of conflict”—it may be a stubborn child, abusive father, etc. Anger triggers should be met with love, patience and kindness (John 13:34, Rom. 12:10, 15:5, Heb. 12:14, 1 Cor. 13:4, Phil. 2:3, Eph. 4:2). Uncontrolled anger can affect the family. Hence, the lesson sheds light on how to deal with anger.
SUNDAY: The best managers of conflict deal with it before it gets out of hand—they don’t allow drops to result in showers (Prov. 17:14; Matt. 7:5, Prov. 19:11). In times of conflict, we must be slow to anger and quick to make peace (Rom. 14:19; Prov. 19:11). Many marriages have broken down because of trivial issues. We must show affection to the person who we’re angry at and avoid the use of “but”.
MONDAY: The first two ordained institutions God gave to man are Marriage and the Sabbath. It’s no surprise therefore that Satan hates these two gifts. Even the perfect marriage of Adam & Eve suffered. Forgiveness is the basic principle of a successful marriage (Eph. 1:7). God loved us while we were still sinners; we ought to love those who doesn’t deserved it—all spouses are sinners (Rom. 3:23).
TUESDAY: Anger exacerbates conflict. “Holding on to anger is like drinking a poison”; it results in pain and suffering to oneself and the family (Eph. 4:26, 27; Eccles. 7:9, James 1:19, 20). We can channel our urge to sin in moments of anger to something positive; praying for and forgiving our offenders. “Angry people often come from angry families”—at home, parents should be good role models (Rom. 12:21).
WEDNESDAY: Conflicts should be resolved at the initial stage. Other than that, it can lead to all forms of abuse—physical, emotional, verbal, sexual etc., which is against God’s original plan for the human race—“unselfish love” (1 John 4:7). True love is not puffed up, it is not harsh but kind and selfless (Col. 3:19). It does not keep record of wrongs but protects, trusts, and hopes. “There’s no fear in love”.
THURSDAY: We should treat others like ourselves; this is our golden rule. Even though not all people who wrong us will change or accept their faults, we should forgive anyway and chase peace (Heb. 12:14). If the family will hold, we need to hold forgiveness dearly and give it out when necessary. “We are not forgiven because we forgive, but as we forgive” (COL, p. 25). Be quick to reconcile (Matt. 5:23, 24).
FRIDAY: It’s a solemn duty for all parents to acquaint themselves with the habits, nature, and character of their children. When ignorant of these, both the father and mother becomes harsh towards their children. Love should be planted and watered in the home. Parents and their children should yearn for the original peace and perfect harmony which God planned for the human race.
—Ellen G. White, The Adventist Home, pp. 314, 315, 195, 196.
COL- Christ’s Object Lessons
MONDAY- Some Principles For Marriage
TUESDAY- The Role Of Anger In Conflict
WEDNESDAY- Conflict, Abuse, Power, And Control
THURSDAY- Forgiveness And Peace
📌 Read the following quote from a book about marriage. “ ‘For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin’ (Heb. 4:15). Just as Christ put Himself in our situation, to best relate to us, we should do the same with our marriage partner. Try to view any given situation or crisis not just from your own perspective but from your spouse’s. See how he or she views the situation, how it has an impact on him or her, and why he or she would feel about it the way he or she does. This principle can go a long way in alleviating tough situations.”—Clifford Goldstein, The Mules That Angels Ride (Hagerstown, Md.: Review and Herald®Publishing Association, 2005), p. 25. In what ways can we apply this principle to all areas of potential conflict with others?
📌 In class, answer the question, “Is anger always a sin?” Defend your position.
For June 1-7. Happy Sabbath.